Ok so I have a confession. I love Valentines Day!
Yes Valentines Day is a commercialised expensive holiday full of over top crap and cringe-worthy pap media stories then seem to only make single people feel more alone. (Hasn’t the media realised yet that all the happy couples are out being happy couples on Valentines Day?) Yes showing your partner that you love and cherish them should not be constrained to one day of the year.
I hear you and I’m not a fan of those things about this special day either.
Firstly, showing your partner that they are special (i.e. Romance) shouldn’t cost the world because making our partners feel special and loved is something that really needs to be done quite frequently.
Now let me ask you a question.
When was the last time you seriously sat down and thought about the role and health of relationships in your life?
Really took stock of where you’re at, where you would like to be, and what you are doing to contribute to them? If you have a partner when was the last time you spoke to them about your relationship? This is why I love Valentines Day; its great to have some time at the start of our new year to think about where we are at with this very important part of our lives – Our Relationships. Yes even for those amongst us that are single.
And lets face it, love and romance is literally in our faces at this time of year anyway.
Happy healthy relationships are key factor in our overall life satisfaction, and to have a happy healthy relationship, we need first to become happy and healthy within ourselves. So being single is fantastic because it’s literally your best time to snuggle up to the most significant relationship of your life, your relationship with you!
So around this time every year, I like to spend time pondering about the quality of my relationship and love life. So I invite you to try it, pull out a notebook and explore your love life!
Are you happy? And Do you think your partner is happy?
What does your ideal relationship look like? Does your's look like that? If not, what needs changing?
If your relationship (or your singleness) were to stay the same will you still be happy in 5, 10, 15 years?
Why do you want a relationship? What do you think being in a relationship brings into your life and your partners life?
What makes a great partner? Are you living up to that list? What do you need to develop?
What’s one thing you can do for your partner to make them feel special today? Next Week? Next month?
What’s one thing you can do to make you feel special today? Next Week? Next Month?
What about shared goals and dreams? Do you have a bucket list?
If you really want to deep dive with your partner, have this conversation with them over your Valentines Day dinner, make a plan and watch your relationship blossom further over the next year!